Is Cleaning a Contentious Issue Within Relationships?

Is cleaning a shared responsibility, or does one partner do and care more about it than the other?  Is cleaning heaven or hell?  However you regard it, it’s our business here at Brightr! We wanted to find out who does most of the cleaning in UK households, and we did so earlier this year by compiling a 16 question national survey.

Our research was somewhat surprising; it seems that sexism is still alive and kicking when it comes to domestic chores, with one household admitting that they divide the work into ‘pink and blue jobs’, while another said ‘the Missus does it all’.

Our survey entitled ‘How Dirty is your Partner?’, got down to the nitty gritty about the roles and responsibilities of cleaning within UK households, with 44% of participants admitting that cleaning is indeed a contentious issue within their relationships.  Here are some further highlights from the data we gathered.

  • 69% of participants said that a clean house is very important to them.
  • 77% of participants had a male partner and 22.45% of them don’t even notice the mess!
  • 40% of partners who notice a mess will leave it and see what happens!
  • 6% of people only put a wash on when they have had to wear the same shirt twice!
  • 5% of participants say the kitchen should be the cleanest room in the house.

Within our survey, there was one question which required a free form comment in answer to the issue of cleaning relating to a partner. Some of the answers certainly made for interesting reading!  Read on to see what some of our participants had to say.

  • He is a lazy pig who expects me to do everything cos that’s what Mummy did. If he were to lift a finger to help, I’d be checking his temperature to make sure he was feeling alright. I teach our son how to do chores as I refuse to raise a lazy, chauvinistic piglet!
  • As with most men he leaves it all to me. He pretends he ‘can’t’ clean. Boo bloody hoo! I’ve even taught him step by step how to clean the loo, but he seems to have permanent amnesia afterwards!
  • Cleaning has never been a contentious issue in our house because on the rare occasion he does something, he does such a poor job that I have to do it again, so what’s the point? It is quicker to do it myself.
  • Our relationship will be ending with the issues caused by his lack of effort being one of the main reasons.
  • In general marriage would be a lot happier if men helped women more around the house. It should be a team effort with the mutual goal of enjoying spending time in a clean and tidy house and not be worried about unexpected guests turning up.
  • When did ‘because I hate cleaning’ become an excuse for not doing it and leaving it for your wife?
  • He’s happy to live like a pig in the proverbial!
  • It annoys me that the majority of cleaning still seems to be done by females. Males generally just don’t seem to see it. Gggrrrrr!
  • I like the bathroom clean. Who wants to bath in someone else’s’ DNA?
  • Not too worried which room is the cleanest, the Missus does it all, so it’s never dirty!

If you would like to access our survey you can do so here: https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/GBLC7J8

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Chria Savage
What’s your role here, and what does a typical day look like?

I’m the Managing Director. I worked for large corporates and a consultancy for 10 years after university. So I would say my strengths lie in a combination of big company processes whilst being realistic about what you can (or need to) achieve as an SME. I Think we hit a good mix. My day is a mix of strategic planning, problem-solving, and making sure everything runs smoothly. I remind myself and everybody else that we are a cleaning and facilities company and that’s what is important to our customers. It’s easy to forget that with all the noise around business these days.

The managers in the office who are my friends. And a lot of the customers who I could say the same thing about- but I guess you would have to ask them.

Our reputation

Responsive, honest, happy

Smooth out and automate the back-end processes as much as you can. Then focus on service delivery. And try very hard to employ the best people. Most important.

Well- so much. Increasing the scope of facilities service offering: it constantly expands, I was looking at drone window cleaning the other day. Also, the facilities market is consolidating and that creates a great opportunity for a family run SME.

It’s all about the music for me really! I was lucky with timing in that there were some great bands about in the 80’s and 90’s, many of which I saw live. These days you’re as likely to find me at the CBSO or the Proms but I’m always on the lookout for a new guitar band. We submit our annual top 5 on the family whatsapp group every Christmas and I try to stay relevant!

Timetravel…I’d like to meet some historical characters. There are so many, but Shakespeare would be interesting to me. What on earth was he like?

Time with my family. Reading and listening to music. I’ve played a lot of sport but it’s all creaking a bit now, so I love walking with my dog, Scout. He’s a lot fitter than me.

Cornwall. It’s always a good idea

I was a warehouse porter in the school/uni holidays at a distribution centre in Hinkley. Pre automation, it was a good workout, put it that way

💗🎸😂

Shanika and cat
What’s your role here, and what does a typical day look like?

I’m the Account Manager, responsible for everything client related, from onboarding new clients and managing ongoing relationships to overseeing communication between clients and our operations team. I also plan and strategies with the operations team on client meetings, audits, cleaner communication, site supplies, and recruitment. My day is a mix of strategic planning, creative problem-solving, and making sure every process runs smoothly.

The variety, no two days are ever the same. I love how my role combines account management with real operational impact, and how we’re always improving systems to deliver better service.

I initially joined Brightr as a Marketing Executive and helped improve our Google visibility and brand recognition across Northamptonshire. Through that journey, I also secured my Skilled Worker Visa with Brightr in 2019 and I’ve been part of the team ever since.

Supportive, hardworking, evolving.

Stay curious and organised, you’ll wear many hats, but that’s what makes it rewarding. Learn the operations side early; it’s key to understanding how to communicate and manage effectively and always respond to client as fast as you can!

Seeing Brightr grow into new sectors while embedding sustainability and quality as our core strengths. We’re becoming a company that truly leads by example. What makes us different is that we genuinely care about our clients’ needs and respond quickly to any matters that arise.

I’m Sri Lankan, but I grew up in India before moving to the UK to complete my MBA and I started working here as a Part Time Marking Executive in 2016. This also means that I can speak three languages, which I am very proud of.

Teleportation, so I could visit every client site without the travel time and instantly teleport back to the office.

I love travelling and exploring different cultures and food apart from that I love spending time with my cat Lucky, pottery, journaling, meditation, and morning walks.

Iceland, it’s been on my list for a while now to see the Northern Lights.

A retail assistant at a small shop in Northampton in 2015 while studying, it taught me the importance of good communication and great customer service early and helped me build my confidence.

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Michele Savage
What’s your role here, and what does a typical day look like?

HR, payroll, accounts.  Dealing with cleaners takes up a lot of time.

Its mine

Project managing the merger of two banks when I worked in the city.

Friendly, supportive, direct.

Ask an expert when needed.

Growing to a size whereby we have economies of scale to put in more resources and robust systems.

I was Essex Trampolining champion and was part of the England program.

To bend peoples minds to my will.

Coach Netball and walk my dogs.

Vietnam

Shanghai Commercial Bank

Happy face, sporty emoji and an animal.

Chris Taylor and family

This is the first of our meet the team profiles, and Chris is our new Sales and Marketing person and has been around Brightr for a long time as sales person to us. Then after years of being a trusted advisor, we felt Chris would be the right man to come and help us move Brightr forward commercially, and we look forward to him having a long and successful impact here with us. Now for the questions…

What’s your role here, and what does a typical day look like?

It’s a very new role for me, but I’m in charge of Sales and Marketing Brightr, so my day will either be full of current customers and prospects and then finding more of them!

The business has a great family feel, and lots of potential, so I’m hoping I can bed in nicely and get the results we all want!

I love winning business against the odds, and have done that lots of times in my career but I’m proud of every one of those times! For Example, one Tuesday night not long ago, a prospect said she was going with a competitor due to price, I was polite and modest with the rejection, and just said any issues let me know and I’ll see how close I can get. She signed on the Wednesday morning.

Efficient, Hard-Working & Close-Knit…but I may think of better words once I’m here a bit longer!

From a sales PoV, work hard, being politely persistent and showing you can be trusted is golden, saying “No” to someone who want’s to buy because you’re not the right fit, is perfectly fine, and it will do you both a favour in the long run. In Marketing terms, always be learning and always be trying!

I think the business is in such a great place the future could be anything at all, and the uncertainty around what route we should take is amazing!

I know the phone number they sing, in the song “Kiss me through the phone” and will never forget it! 678-999-8212

The ability to make everyone say “Yes” to me

I love making my wife and children laugh

Australia, never been and always wanted to, seem to get the feeling I wouldn’t come back!

The first role I got paid for, was picking up the skittles at my rugby club on Friday nights for £10 and free reign of the buffet, my first actual job was in AllSports just before it closed (it wasn’t my fault!)

Hilarious, Intelligent and Short!